Message Templates for Dating Apps: Openers, Follow-ups & More

Sixty ready-to-adapt messages, organised across twenty situations that come up in almost every dating-app chat — three variants in different tones for each. Fill in the placeholder, change a word so it sounds like you, send. Written in a natural, human tone — no cringeworthy pickup lines, no "hey beautiful", no negging. For anything the library doesn't cover, the AI message generator writes five new suggestions from a few keywords.

Situations covered

• Conversation starters — first message, a compliment, commenting on the profile, finding common interests
• Keeping it going — reviving a stalled chat, turning up the flirt, humour, going deeper, asking for a photo
• Next steps — asking them out, swapping numbers, thanking them after a date, suggesting a second date, exclusivity, the relationship talk
• Tough situations — breaking the ghosting, politely saying no, setting boundaries, slowing things down, an awkward question

Templates are a starting point, not a script. If a template feels wrong in your voice, rewrite it. For the reasoning behind why each one works, read keep any conversation going and how to keep a dating chat going. For the openers that go before all of this, try the opener generator.

How to unlock it

The templates and the message generator are part of Premium. Without a subscription, the Date Prep pass ($4.99, 48 hours) or Confidence Week ($12.99, 7 days) unlock them too — one-time payments, no renewal.